Monday, June 17, 2013

"Time" is so Fleeting

"If we wait too long the opportunity might not ever present itself again." ~Mama Hen 
Someone I cared about passed away a couple of days ago. She had been ill for years and somehow recently I had lost touch. However, she was always on my mind. As time passed I kept saying to myself, "pick up the phone and call" and "sit down and write a letter". Somehow, I kept thinking there would always be "time". She called to invite me to her son's graduation and I was so excited to go. When I saw her last week I was sad that she had become so frail and I had not been there to support her outwardly. I gave her a hug and she asked if I was coming to a little celebration at her house after the graduation. I explained that I had to take my daughter for blood work, but that I would call and make plans to go to her house and catch up. Her radiant smile beamed as I handed her the gift I had brought for her son. I stroked her cheek and said, "I had no idea". As I left I kept wondering why I had let so much time pass without checking in and seeing how she was doing. This is a woman I have the utmost respect for. She dedicated her life to assuring her children would have a wonderful future. She was always upbeat during her battle with illness. She never complained. I have learned from this that there is truly no time like the here and now to tell the people you love how much you care for them. "Time" is something we are not sure of. It is so fleeting and must be embraced with fervor. I can't go back and change how I would have corresponded more with this amazing, beautiful, inspiring friend, but I can move forward and know that I will make sure to be more present and vocal in the lives of those who I love and care about.

6 comments:

  1. Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Yes, I've feel the same way you do about time. We have so little of it nowadays, and it seems like we can barely find enough time just to spend it with our own immediate families--never mind distant family members and friends. I've often felt guilty about not "picking up the phone" and contacting family members, and yes, there have been times when it's been too late... I guess we can't beat ourselves up for it; all we can do is fill their lives with a little more sunshine when we do get a chance to see them. Some sunshine is better than none at all... I know you definitely made this woman's life a little brighter :)

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  2. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. I'm sure she knew how you felt about her, and I'm sure she felt the same way about you. ((hugs))

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  3. Lovely and important post. Sorry to hear about your loss.

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  5. I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend. I'm sure she understood and knew how much you cared about her.

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  6. I hate this feeling, unfortunately it happens to all of us. It's amazing how quickly someone can vanish from our lives whether they are still living or passed. I'm sure she's smiling down on you now :-)

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