Wednesday, March 23, 2011

To Be A Child

"As we get older we long for the innocence, purity, freedom and carefree days of our youth. However, the life of a child these days is filled with schedules, academic pressures, unbelievable expectations and simply keeping up with their peers. Where has the simplicity of mud pies, lazy days and just being a child gone?"
~Mama Hen
As much as I try my hardest not to get wrapped up in the high expectations being placed on our children today, I have to admit that a parent almost has to stay abreast to what is going on within their community regarding children so that their own child may feel that they fit in amongst their peers. I loved my youth and the carefree days that went with it. I remember playing outside with dirt, sticks and my bike for hours. I try to share this with Little Chick by spending as much time outdoors exploring as possible. My fondest memories included family, laughter, and simply time spent together. Last night while looking for some fun preschool art activities to do with my daughter I came across the "What should my four year old know" section. So I clicked on it and found an absolutely wonderful site by Alicia Bayer that summed up exactly how I feel. Here is an excerpt from the article that I hope you will click on and read when you have a moment (Magical Childhood):

Alicia Bayer's list of what a four year old should know:
"She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally, all of the time.
He should know that he is safe and he should know how to keep himself safe in public, with others, and in varied situations. He should know that he can trust his instincts about people and that he never has to do something that doesn't feel right, no matter who is asking. He should know his personal rights and that his family will back them up.
She should know how to laugh, act silly, be goofy and use her imagination. She should know that it is always okay to paint the sky orange and give cats 6 legs.
He should know his own interests and be encouraged to follow them. If he could care less about learning his numbers, his parents should realize he'll learn them accidentally soon enough and let him immerse himself instead in rocket ships, drawing, dinosaurs or playing in the mud.
She should know that the world is magical and that so is she. She should know that she's wonderful, brilliant, creative, compassionate and marvelous. She should know that it's just as worthy to spend the day outside making daisy chains, mud pies and fairy houses as it is to practice phonics. Scratch that-- way more worthy."

The article goes on to give a list about what parents of a four year old should know. It is so worth reading as a reminder of what is truly important. I think we all can get so wrapped up in the "expectations" that are placed on us all in today's world. If we can just get back to making mud pies in the dirt and collecting pretty rocks and leaves we would all find a little more peace in this fast paced society we are living in. I would love to "slow down" a bit and smell the roses. Time has a way of flying by and the time for being a child is getting shorter and shorter.


  1. Adorable blog and great post! Thanks for stopping by Salt & Nectar!

  2. Ahhhh LOVE this, Mama! Thank you for sharing :)

  3. Great site! Thanks for sharing as I found some other articles related to two years old (for Ben) that I could read up on! :)

  4. So well said. What a great article. It's harder and harder as my girls get older and spend more time with friends and at school but I'm a big believer in staying a kid for as long as possible. Girls grow up WAY too fast these days.

  5. So true - kids today "grow up" so fast - too fast.

  6. This is so wonderful! As parents, we need to be so protective today of our childrens' innocence and imagination. They are forced to grow up so fast! I'm heading over to the site right now to check it out! Hope you're having a good day!

  7. Well said! I hate the hoopla but at the same time I get all wrapped up into it. Such a cyle

  8. Amen! love it - absolutely could not agree more! our children are so pressured by society today to be 'smarter' earlier. i have friends who are teachers - one a 1st grade teacher who told me her first year of teaching she was having 6yr olds come into class crying b/c they knew they had a big test coming up - a test that obviously didn't count for much - other than to compare them to a 3rd grade level - already - at 6!! it's craziness! i can only hope and pray that i help my son (and child on the way) learn to love to play -be carefree - find joy in each day - in the very simple things -while they can (without the feeling of guilt that comes along with it as an adult)! after all.... they have the rest of their lives to 'act grown up'! =)
    thanks for sharing this!!

  9. They grow up so fast, it's a real blessing when people realize this and cherish the moment!

  10. Such a wonderful reminder about what is truly important for our growing little beings.
    Thanks for sharing.

  11. SO TRUE! Thanks for all your sharing and wisdom, Mama Hen! Great post.

    And THANK YOU, Mama Hen, for always reaching out to all Bloggy Friends: Without YOU, I would not have reached the amazing ONE MILLION page view mark - because when I look at my stats, many, many, many visitors are from Mama's Little Chick and Mama's Little Nestwork.

    It shows your networking is brilliant and I thank you and everyone who has visited and even e-mailed me on site.

    Love you, Mama Hen, and Love you Bloggy Friends!!!
    And THANK YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


  12. Ah, MH I love the way you open my eyes. I'm blessed with a child who has a HUGE imagination. She's creative and active and her school has a hard time embracing that. I often feel the need to push her to sit still and to focus on book work and this post really spoke to me. Every night I sit down with her at the computer and we work on her reading lessons...some days she loves it and some days not-so-much. I think on the not-so-much days, I'll get down on the floor with her and play dinosaur instead. As the article says...there will be time for book-work later.

    Thanks for the food for thought, my friend :)

  13. Thank you for sharing! I absolutely loved that!

  14. I love what she said. Very important stuff - more important than flashcards and such.

  15. I just bookmarked this post, I love that quote and can't wait to read more! xo



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