"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." When I taught fourth grade I used to make vocabulary a huge part of our year. I always used GRE words and I told each child that they could learn the same words that college students were learning. They loved that I raised the bar really high for them, but most of all they liked and appreciated that I believed in them! It was really great to see college level vocabulary in their writing assignments and in their conversations. However, the first word they were given on day one of the school year was empathy. I find this word to be incredibly important. More than this, I find its meaning powerful and a necessity in life. Sadly, there are many who do not know this word and even worse, they don't always feel it!
What is empathy? The dictionary definition is: Empathy - the action of understanding, being sensitive to, being aware of, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.
How many times have you experienced someone who judges you or speaks without even knowing what you may be going through? I have learned one valuable lesson in this life, and that is under no circumstances should I judge another person. I have not walked in their shoes and I have not felt what their heart has been through.
I have a beautiful couple in their eighties living next door to me. They have lived in this home for over sixty years. I have gotten to know them recently and I adore them. Their yard has really become overgrown and they have two of their old cars from long ago sitting in the driveway collecting leaves and outdoor debris as time passes. I don't notice these things or really care about it. I just enjoy their company immensely and talking to them about their fond memories. However, there is a neighborhood clique that has been calling this couple continually telling them to get their lawn done and to move the cars. Personally, I don't see the neighbors paying this couples taxes, but besides that, I can't believe the utter lack of empathy. The poor older gentleman has had two strokes within the past 12 months and has just been diagnosed with colon cancer. The wife explained this to the neighbor, and instead of maybe baking something for this couple, they continue to hound them about their yard. This to me is a perfect example of having absolutely no empathy. We all get old and not as agile or capable if we are blessed to live that long. Where is the empathy? I can't even fathom what is going on through someones mind as they conscientiously badger an elderly couple!
How often have you encountered a lack of empathy?