Wednesday, April 21, 2010

In the Hen House

"A mother who radiates self - love and acceptance
vaccinates her daughter from low self esteem."

I remember watching an Oprah episode in 2004 on raising children. I was still dreaming of becoming a mom at that point, however, this quote struck a chord within me. I quickly grabbed a piece of paper and pen and wrote it down. I am not sure who the great mind behind the quote was, but I knew that when I finally became a mother that I would remind myself of this statement from time to time.

It is not always so easy to feel accepting of oneself when the day is focused on trying to make sure our children's needs are met, our home is in order and our bills are paid on time. There is much more I can add to this list, but I think any mom can grasp where I am heading with this. I start my day by putting my "mommy uniform" on. This consists of my black sweat pants (of which I have four pairs thanks to my friend who works at Ann Taylor Loft), t-shirt (a rainbow of colors to choose from thanks to the great prices at Old Navy), and my wonderful No-nonsense socks (all of which are white to make the laundry a tad easier). This is a far cry from the beautiful blouses I used to wear, along with sexy fine fitted pants and a pair of high heels. It is all about comfort for me these days. I like to run around in the yard with my Little Chick and climb the monkey bars. When we are indoors I am either on the floor doing puzzles with her or running around cleaning the house and cooking. I do not always feel so beautiful and the twenty something pounds I have put on don't help either.

So I need to refer back to the quote from time to time to remind myself of how important it is to take care of me for my inner well being, as well as for my daughter. I want her to be able to learn from my example and to be inspired. I know that my "mommy uniform" does not define who I am and how I feel as a person. But I do find myself getting so caught up with wanting to do everything as a mom and I end up losing a part of myself in the process. This is the balance that I am trying to learn so that I can inspire my daughter in every way and re energize myself.

It is every moms conundrum to find the time for herself. And when she does, not to feel guilty that she should be doing the dishes, balancing the checkbook, or cleaning the dreaded bathroom tub and toilets. We moms are all on this journey together working on figuring it all out while we lovingly try to create the best environment and life for our families. And so begins my blog about my own personal journey as a mom who is trying to find the balance necessary to be that mom who "radiates self - love and acceptance."


  1. I loved this new blog! You are so on target when it comes to the mommy uniform! That was so funny and so true - I have that same uniform - it's all about comfort, Baby, all about comfort!!
    The "Let's Talk!" Mom

  2. Something for every mom to think about!

  3. I love this quote!! This was a great post. I am going to follow your blog!

  4. I think all of us moms are trying to find the balance we need to stay healthy and to be the best for our families. I really love the quote in the beginning! Great blog!

  5. I love the quote! I will write that one down and remind myself as well from time to time!

  6. I find that I have to really catch myself so I can find some balance each day. There is always so much that has to be done. But the most important thing is spending quality time with our children. The dishes can wait. Love your blog!

  7. What a great reminder to us all! Our kids are not just watching us to see what to do...but also what to be--how inspiring!

  8. Enjoy the uniform. There will come a time that you will again wear the high heels. I am at that stage remembering all those wonderful time in my uniform.

  9. hey there...lovely blog:)I thoroughly enjoyed glancing through it..keep up the good work . I blog about child psychology and parenting myself :)do have a peek at


  10. I love this quote! So awsome! I'm your newest follower!


  11. That quote is awesome. I'm working on making that happen! With 4 little girls to grow, I have my work cut out for me!

    Thanks for letting me follow you!
    Tami Twinfactory

  12. Your little Chick is adorable! Love your blog and will be back! Thanks!

  13. Hi I am dalysE, from MBC, and I totally agree with you Mama Hen. Since I was a little girl people also ask me: what would you like to be when you grow up? and I answer: A MOM!!!!! I also became married late for some people, but the rigth time for me and my hubbie, and then became the fertility issue too. Oh! I think we both live paralel life, aja?
    Then I finally after almost 3 long years of treatments and stuff, and then came my babygirl Gia (now she is 4tks God full of health). Then When I quit my office job, and started working full time mom job, I also quit to my heels, my sexy pants, and all that stuff, sometimes I feel like missing those, but then my daughter get in the room and that cutie little face remember me that I made the most important decission in my life, and she is the reason I wake up in the morning. My entire life is dedicated to have her healthy, with fresh food, clean the house and clean hear and also make her life comfortable. All moms are in the same boat, so count me in and whenever you need something shut me an email I will be there for you.xoxo dalys

  14. Beautiful Post. I struggle with this all the time, and you found the words for me.

    Come check out my blog if you're interested, I will definately be back to read more of yours!



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